Life as we know it

Life is strange sometimes. When you think you have lost it all.When you think your life is monotonous and plain boring.You meet a group of people who absolutely make you feel alive.Now I realize that there's so much fun in taking chances.You never regret taking chances.But you will one day regret all those days when you did not laugh..

Vellore institute of technology

So the admission season has come again & all the students are busy choosing the institutes.People check out rankings,brochures & websites etc to make the decision of their lives.But u still can't trust them because such things can be bugged isn't it?
I went through the same phase last year & landed up at Vellore Institute of Technology,Vellore.
The first month I had spent here was miserable.I missed home,parents,my pet & specially my home town.I started interacting with people & things started changing.Today I have friends I can count on.I feel more independent than I was before.I used to be the girl who used to travel with my driver.I was never alone,but now I have travelled 1500kms alone & experienced what life really is.I read a lot of criticism about vit when I was enrolling.Honesty,I hated the institution for the first couple of months( mostly because home is so far).But the truth is there are both the pro's n con's of the institution.I am listing out both.
Pro's:
1.A lot of people argue about Vit charging a lot of fees from its students.But I don't think it's wrong because they do have a wonderful campus,serious security & amazing labs.They have biometric attendance for hostellers.I have never seen a single instrument or apparatus out of order in their labs.
2.They have continuous evaluation policy & engineering is not at all a cake walk.U do earn your degree at vit.U have to work hard or you go down.
4.Not many people know about the 'fully flexible credit system' at vit.U choose what subjects you would like to study in the respective semesters.U can also choose your teachers and design your own timetable.It's one of the only colleges in India with such an option.
5.The teachers upload books,study material online.It's like the next generation college.You also fill feedback forms at the end of each semester & if you feel that some improvements can be made in the the system you can suggest stuff anonymously.
6.U will get to meet people from different cultures,places & gain some free experience too!
7.You can choose between Class based learning & Project based learning.Project based learning is very beneficial as it is based on how concepts are implemented in real life scenarios.
8.No ragging.Yes I have never been ragged in my college life.The rules dont allow the seniors to even think of ragging someone.
Cons
1.The rules in VIT change every fortnight.If you are a girl you'll be running every weekend to get written permissions signed by your warden.You are asked to submit a bond( stamp paper) signed by your parents when college starts..
For every single thing you need stuff on the stamp paper.
2.Strict attendance rules are there in VIT.U need to have 75% attendance to appear for every exam.So if you were thinking that vit is a place where you can bunk lots of classes & have fun..You can't afford to.period.
3.Vit is synonymous with exams.There are times when you have exams every alternate week.It feels like school a lot of times.
4.The hostel rooms change every year & there is a counselling for that too.The demands for the ac rooms is a lot more than what vit has & so even to get a good room you need good grades or friends with good grades or some other means.
I am sure that the management will
Overall I find VIT is a very good institute & the whole vishwanathan family has done a wonderful job.I respect & appreciate all the people who have contributed to make the place called vit what it is today.I am not advertising here.I have just stated some facts.

Life as we know it

When life is going good you think of your friends.When life gets bad you start thinking about other people.First you go to the people around you,then you go to your parents.And when no one can help you,you think about God.Although I stay in a 4 bedded room in Vit,I still feel alone a lot of times.The day I entered room no.119,I had tears rolling down my eyes.I was leaving my parents,my pet & some wonderful friends behind.I had to stay with people who I feared were quite different from what I was.I faced sexist and at times racist people.I realised how how my life changed so drastically in a month.Every morning I used to wake up with just one wish which was to go back home.I never felt alone at home.My mom was more like my best friend.My dad was an amazing guide.They both are still there for me but they are a thousand miles away.I made a few friends.Some are busy chasing girls & some are busy chasing marks.I have just realised one thing now.We are born alone & God just puts us into paradise for a few years & then starts playing the game of life with us.I am a people pleaser.I love to make people smile.But sometimes that's what dissappoints me.Everyday is a battle here at vit.Room counselling is the worst that I lost.Those weird quizzes,cats & walking 4 kms to get to your classes.And how can I forget losing 4Kgs of weight.
I have changed.I am not that innocent as I as was last year.I have the power to stand up for what I want.And the best thing I have got is independence.I can live alone.I can travel alone.I am just me.Vit has been a lesson,an experience & has made me a very different person.I just wish this is all for my own good.But one thing that I have not lost yet is my optimism.I hope that the sunrise would soon soak up my sorrows & make me a much better person.
Have a nice day.

I <3 MOM

My mother Manjeet Dave is one of the most beautiful people I've ever met.

She has the greatest adjusting power.She understands me more than anybody in the world.
She has the ability to smile even when the sky is falling down.Maybe that's what makes her so special.I have never seen her sad in her days of trouble.She is as charming as she was in her new haircut.Some people are blessed with a strong heart that can bear anything & everything.

My mother has always supported me emotionally.I knew I could pour my heart out to her & she would offer a solution to my problem.She adjusted very well in a family which was quite different than hers'.She is a true idol for me.

She has been working as a Professor at a government college from the past 25 years.She struck a great balance between her personal & professional life.She used to cook some awesome dinner for me.I've realized this more after having the food offered to us at our VIT mess though.She always served me with a smile.Here people dump food on my plate with expressions that can't amuse me.
My mother is my best friend.She knows who I like,dislike,talk to.She knows when I am not well.She is a secret box for me.Everything I can't tell dad can be definitely shared with mom.She has gained my trust that way.I love shopping with Mom.Yes.. she loves shopping for bedspreads & cutlery more than for shoes but still she's a great company.She has been my best friend & she'll always be.I hope God will grant her all her wishes.I hope she stays this awesome forever!I love you Mom!& I miss you!
I'll be home soon :)

Change

Change is life.Life is change.Whatever you say it remains the same.
Changes are challenging but are worth it.
Just like you can't wear the same pair of trousers everyday similarly you cannot live in the same city for your lifetime.I am going to vellore for my further studies & just like any other human being I am pretty nervous about it.
I'm getting a chance to start afresh.I have a chance to mold my personality,meet different people & experience a whole new world.
But something is definitely troubling me.It's tough to leave your family behind.It's tougher when you have this attachment with every single person you've ever met.
Change is life but sometimes that's what makes it painful.

Jannat-e-Kashmir:It's Safe!

Hey guys!
I am back from my trip to Kashmir & I feel that this has been one of the best destinations I've visited in my life!So here I am writing a guide to Kashmir!

It was a seven days tour & I covered 4 places:

• Pahalgam
• Gulmarg
• Sonmarg
• Srinagar
   

The people of Kashmir are as sweet as sugar & are very hospitable.When I was planning my trip to Kashmir,many people warned me not to visit the place as the situations can change anytime,but the people of Kashmir really changed my opinion.We all have very different impressions of Kashmir & I feel that the time has come when we need to change our views about it.Everybody welcomed us with beautiful smiles & tried to show us the real Kashmir.I feel that the common people of Kashmir have more beautiful hearts than the place.
Kashmir can really be as beautiful as heaven if you just keep the following things in mind:

• Book a vehicle from a reputed travel agency because it's best to be with people who can be trusted.
  I hired a car from "Shangloo Travels" & the driver of the car was a very helpful person.
  He knew the place very well & he familiarized us with their culture.
• Always obey your guide/driver & do not try to be adventurous.I came across a situation where a fight broke out about 50m in front of my vehicle.Within no time the people started gathering & a huge mob came out of no where.But our driver told us to just close our windows & stay inside the car.It took about 15 minutes for the local police to resolve the issue & clear the traffic.
• The kashmiri's are very hospitable & WILL NEVER try to HARM tourists.Once during the time of the amarnath land dispute, the extremists tried to harm some tourists,but the local kashimiri's took them to their own homes & fed them & safely escorted them to the airport.In the past five years not even a single tourist has been harmed!
  Also,the Kashmir economy is primarily dependent on tourism sector..So the locals will never ever try to harm tourists as it hurts their pockets and their stomachs!
• To be on the safer side read the local newspaper everyday.I really liked to read "The Greater Kashmir"It covers all the important news & keeps you updated about all the recent issues.
• Please don't feel awkward when the kashmiri's say that "A lot of 'Indians' will visit Kashmir in this season".
  They do not look like Indians(exceptions r always there!),speak like Indians & so like to be called kashmiri's & not Indians!
  I've also seen people say certain things like"Hamara bharat kitna sundar hai!".But we need to understand that it is still a disputed land & many people like Kashmir to be known as "Their Kashmir" or "Azad Kashmir".
  We should all respect them for what they feel & what they are!
  
  
  
  
  

 

Positive + Positive = Positive

Haven't you heard the saying that 'All's well that ends well'.Sometimes I feel that even the opposite is true.
If you start your day on a good note it definitely ends well.
So I woke up this morning with a beautiful song & it has really given me a lot of hopes for the day.
There are plenty of things all over the internet which can make you feel a little more positive,enthusiastic & alive.
I would love to list my favorites for you:)

• The team of the book "The Secret" came out with some really good videos which are well created.
  My favorite one is "the secret to you".It really helps me to feel the real me.

 

 

• My next favourite is the new coca cola advertisement.It really makes my day:

•  There's a song which is very close to my heart as I listen to it on all my Birthdays :)

 

That's all for now!I'll be back soon & hopefully will spread more positivity around!

Have a nice day & happy reading! :D